"Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away."
— Maya Angelou
From June to October, brides say, "I do," more than any other time. But there is a surge in marriages in winter and in spring.
It is a time when passion is still ripe and wonderful, and communication is effortless (I hope), and there is so much, much more to look forward to. I believe this is the enchanting and thrilling part of your life. It's when you meet each other's needs and learn with almost child-like wonder about this man you will spend your lifetime with. And your feelings for each other are deep, indescribable, and incredible. It's like magic; a wonderful exhilarating feeling that you had prayed or wished for—a good man, your soulmate.
I hope you learn to give and take—the bitter with the sweet, compromise and forgive. And become an activist in your marriage. Keep the line of communication open and listen actively to each other. You will realize your differences. And those hidden flaws will eventually be displayed. But that's okay, because you love him unconditionally and he loves you too. And the flaws are not so bad that you want to walk away (I hope). You both might be disappointed because who can always live up to our expectations.
Regardless of how hot and steamy a relationship is at first, the passion fades and there had better be something else to take its place. (See my blog outlined in "Spring.")
Stay away from power struggles, blame, and shame. When things appear out of control, take it to a referee, your pastor or a therapist. They will help you remember the reason you married: to love each other with all your heart and all your soul.
I hope your love is always like summer, warm and exciting, and that spring is eternal in your hearts.
"...All we need is just the sun in the sky. And the hope of summer to come with the meaning of love."—Anonymous